When I was a child, although I had loving parents, I was lonely.
When I was a young man, despite the fact that I had lots of “friends”, I was lonely.
When I was married, I was lonely, in fact, it was the loneliest time of my entire life.
Today, although I am alone, I am NOT… lonely.
Let’s Go 2 Work.
In 2023, the Surgeon General of the United States found that men are experiencing more loneliness than other adults (I don’t know why they phrased it as “other adults” rather than just saying men are lonelier than women, what the hell is other adults). A CNBC survey found that 63% of men reported feeling lonely. In addition, one in three men believe that there is no one to help them if they’re in need and 15% of men have reported having no close friends at all. Society has coined this dilemma, “The Loneliness Epidemic.”
Here is how I cured my loneliness.
#1. I CHOSE to stop being sad about being alone.
-Meriam-Webster Dictionary states that the word lonely means: sad from being alone. If you simply change “sad from being alone” to “happy from being alone” or “just fine from being alone” or “recharged from being alone” then based on the definition, you’re literally no longer… lonely.
#2. I realized my relationships will only be as good as my aloneness
Because I had never sat in the fire, as in, dealt with my demons, I was never able to truly give myself to a woman in a meaningful way. It never occurred to me that if I didn’t like spending time with me, why would anyone else? I wasn’t good to women because I wasn’t good to myself. I subconsciously gave to those who I knew would hurt me just so I could say, “See, nobody gives a shit about me.” But once I started sitting with myself, I began to discover who I was. This led to me following my enthusiasm, and that led to me finding my purpose, which in return gave me fulfilment from being alone.
#3. God
“I said “You are gods and you are all sons of the Most-High (Psalm 82:6).”” You must understand that God has impregnated your being with specific things that only you can give birth to. The very fact that you have certain desires and dreams that never seem to cease is proof from God that it is yours already. God left us in charge to create and to expand. We’ve got worlds to conquer and universes to rule. We don’t have fucking time to be lonely. “As I was WITH Moses, so shall I be WITH you; I will never leave you nor forsake you (Joshua 1:5).”
Don’t become sad from being alone.
From being alone, become good… better… GREAT.
WALT FACTUAL
