I don’t see anything wrong with being a stepdad. Infact, I was a stepdad for 10 years. Even though my ex-wife and I are not together, I still look out for my step kids when they need something. With that said, I will say this, no little boy, in the history of little boys, has ever thought, “I want to be a stepdad when I grow up.”
Let’s get 2 work.
Little boys rarely entertain the thought of becoming husbands and/or fathers because they’re too busy being on their purpose. How are little boys on their purpose you ask? When you see boys blowing shit up, shooting shit up, fighting, searching for treasure, being Batman, they are on their purpose, hence the term… “boys will be boys.” The only time boys think about adult things are when they accidently find a porn stash or on those rare occasions when they are forced to play house with a girl they like.
Which raises the question, how on earth do girls entice boys to trade-in their machine play guns for plastic teapots?
By offering something of value, and in this case that valuable thing is…
PRIDE.
Young Tiana says to young Rambo, "I am YOUR wife, this is YOUR house, and this is YOUR baby.” Young Rambo then says to young Tiana, “Bet!” Why did he buy in so quickly? Because we XY chromosomes VALUE ownership and with ownership comes PRIDE. Knowing that this is MY wife, MY house, and MY baby, makes me feel PROUD and gives me incentive to work hard to protect what I OWN. It’s no coincidence that a group of lions is called a “pride.” In exchange for a male lion’s protection, lionesses’ offer sex, food, and offspring of his own. Now, imagine if Tiana said to Rambo, “Hey, stop saving the world, come over here and help me raise G.I. Joe’s baby.” With no hesitation, young Rambo would tell her, “Get fucked!” No little girl would ever ask him no shit like that because females inherently know that in order to steer any male away from his PURPOSE, you have to offer something valuable. But here’s who would sign up for that bum ass deal… the “poor me” kid with no mission. Which brings me to the point of this article.
Here are the 10 ways you project Stepdaddy Energy.
No Pride (when nobody is looking, who are you?)
No MVP (mission, vision, purpose)
No Confidence (your losing voice is louder than your winning voice)
No Evidence (you don’t respect yourself because you’re full of shit)
No Faith (James 2:26)
Yes man (you put yourself last on your own list)
Pleasure over everything (this is why you’re fat right now)
Scarcity Mindset (you think only one woman will ever want to touch your dick)
Don’t know who you are (Psalm 82:6)
Scared (scared what people think, scared what they might say, scared to be alone, scared to die, scared to live, scared of the dark, scared of the light, scared to try, scared of failure, scared of success…scared)
One thing all stepdads have in common is the habit of settling for less. Most stepdads are also pretty nice. But where does being nice really get you in life? You can go through your entire existence being afraid, constantly making women your God, always putting yourself last, and when it’s all said and done maybe people will come to your funeral.
Or… you can turn your life around, be the opposite of everything on that list, really TRY for once, and only play house with girls who can offer you some pride.
